The Father Thing

Bill Cosby Has Harsh Words for Black Community:

Cosby elaborated Thursday on his previous comments in a talk interrupted several times by applause. He castigated some blacks, saying that they cannot simply blame whites for problems such as teen pregnancy and high school dropout rates.

I want you to think back. I want you to think back to when I was a kid, around the early and mid-eighties. Who was Bill Cosby? He was “America’s Favorite Father.” That is a hell of a title, and he earned it. Bill Cosby is not some yahoo talking out of his ass. He has a Ph.D. in education. He has been married for almost forty years. He taught a generation of fathers what it means to be a father.

You need to think about the different roles that a father and a mother play. A mother comforts. A mother will tell you, “I know it wasn’t your fault. I’ll protect you from those mean people. You go on up to your room and play with your toys, and I’ll clean up this mess for you.” A father doesn’t do this. Your father asks you, “Why did you let them do that to you? Why haven’t you cleaned this mess up?”

As a community, the blacks of America have had an overbearing mother in the US Government and the various race pimps, and precious few fathers. The most notable fathers — Dr. King and Malcolm X — were cut down by assassins. This isn’t just a metaphorical situation; far far too many black children have never had a father, and far too many black boys will procreate without ever becoming fathers. A boy without a father is much less likely to become a father himself, and a girl without a father is much less likely to pick the kind of man who will be father.

Black America has had far too few fathers for far too long. America’s Favorite Father is stepping up to the plate, and doing what fathers do. He is saying the harsh words that you have to hear to grow up. You have to be responsible for what you do. You have to clean up your messes. You have to get out of the house, stop taking an allowance from mom and dad, stop eating mom’s cooking, and strike out on your own. You have to be an adult.

No one likes to hear it at the time. It is scary. It is hard. I’m betting that it isn’t any easier for the father to give that talk than it is for the son or daughter to hear it, but that is what fathers do. They say the hard things, and they don’t let it show how hard they are to say. He isn’t saying the things he is saying because he wants to hurt Black America. He is saying them because he wants to help Black America. He isn’t saying it because he thinks that every black person will buckle down and the world will turn into a utopia; he is saying it because he hopes that a few more will, and a few is better than none.

Even though your kids will consistently do the exact opposite of what you’re telling them to do, you have to keep loving them just as much.
— Bill Cosby

One Comment

  1. Mexigogue says:

    This is like the Rosa Parks comment in the movie “Barbershop”. There is a certain element of things that black people will say among each other that they will recoil at if it’s said among whites. I bet many of the people screaming the loudest about Bill Cosby’s comments would readily agree if he had said these things in private.